Fix duplicate artifacts issue with maven-source-plugin in release build

[lhotari]

Motivation

dev/release/003-release-perform.sh fails with errors

[INFO] [INFO] --- source:3.3.0:jar (attach-sources) @ buildtools ---
[INFO] [INFO] Building jar: /Users/lari/workspace-pulsar/bookkeeper/target/checkout/buildtools/target/buildtools-4.17.0-sources.jar
[INFO] [INFO]
[INFO] [INFO] --- source:3.3.0:jar-no-fork (attach-sources) @ buildtools ---
[INFO] [ERROR] We have duplicated artifacts attached.
...
[INFO] [ERROR] Failed to execute goal org.apache.maven.plugins:maven-source-plugin:3.3.0:jar-no-fork (attach-sources) on project buildtools: Presumably you have configured maven-source-plugn to execute twice times in your build. You have to configure a classifier for at least on of them. -> [Help 1]
[INFO] [ERROR]

After resolving that, there was another set of errors in installing bookkeeper-dist/all, bookkeeper-dist/bkctl and bookkeeper-dist/server. The error message contained this message:

The packaging plugin for this project did not assign a main file to the project but it has attachments.

Changes

• use jar-no-fork goal instead of jar goal.
• change parent pom version to 29 (also used in apache/pulsar)
  • parent pom diff between 26 -> 29
• rely on pluginManagement for handling maven plugin versions for these core plugins
  • maven-assembly
  • maven-clean-plugin
  • maven-dependency-plugin
  • maven-deploy-plugin
  • maven-install-plugin
  • maven-jar-plugin
  • maven-javadoc-plugin
  • maven-shade-plugin.
  • maven-source-plugin
• let Apache parent pom version 29 assign the plugin versions so that they are compatible with each other and the Apache release.
• Changing package from jar to pom for bookkeeper-dist/all, bookkeeper-dist/bkctl and bookkeeper-dist/server
  • error was The packaging plugin for this project did not assign a main file to the project but it has attachments.

[lhotari]

please also review and merge #4235 and #4236 since those were necessary at least in my case (MacOS Apple Silicon M3 Max)

[lhotari]

@eolivelli @nicoloboschi This is also needed in branch-4.16 and branch-4.15 since those are also broken due to pom.xml changed made while fixing integration tests. Please also include #4235 and #4236.

[eolivelli]

+1
thank you very much!

[eolivelli]

LGTM