[ci](opt) stop grace and check mem leak after regression

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run buildall

[doris-robot]

TPC-H: Total hot run time: 39774 ms

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/tpch-tools
Tpch sf100 test result on commit 1c8bc243aa506838c152986f30c699a7621bb13e, data reload: false

------ Round 1 ----------------------------------
q1	17812	7422	7262	7262
q2	2043	171	160	160
q3	10600	1064	1189	1064
q4	10576	744	781	744
q5	7606	2696	2673	2673
q6	246	149	146	146
q7	987	634	608	608
q8	9252	1860	1915	1860
q9	6727	6400	6432	6400
q10	6962	2350	2315	2315
q11	478	266	259	259
q12	426	221	228	221
q13	17772	2903	2884	2884
q14	249	207	207	207
q15	552	518	493	493
q16	658	585	609	585
q17	983	570	557	557
q18	7253	6613	6631	6613
q19	1349	1011	1010	1010
q20	486	187	185	185
q21	4008	3214	3357	3214
q22	386	336	314	314
Total cold run time: 107411 ms
Total hot run time: 39774 ms

----- Round 2, with runtime_filter_mode=off -----
q1	7200	7264	7237	7237
q2	328	227	231	227
q3	2901	2811	2951	2811
q4	2148	1926	1834	1834
q5	5677	5661	5623	5623
q6	229	146	148	146
q7	2293	1880	1841	1841
q8	3403	3528	3520	3520
q9	8961	9029	8969	8969
q10	3578	3548	3542	3542
q11	608	499	521	499
q12	854	601	620	601
q13	13062	3056	3173	3056
q14	329	297	286	286
q15	569	509	506	506
q16	747	639	633	633
q17	1852	1641	1603	1603
q18	8433	7656	7645	7645
q19	1716	1613	1568	1568
q20	2103	1864	1908	1864
q21	5666	5528	5445	5445
q22	660	624	539	539
Total cold run time: 73317 ms
Total hot run time: 59995 ms

[doris-robot]

TPC-DS: Total hot run time: 196990 ms

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/tpcds-tools
TPC-DS sf100 test result on commit 1c8bc243aa506838c152986f30c699a7621bb13e, data reload: false

query1	1316	934	925	925
query2	6248	2454	2324	2324
query3	11093	4731	4706	4706
query4	33266	23457	23461	23457
query5	3553	472	436	436
query6	280	213	192	192
query7	3991	306	304	304
query8	330	242	237	237
query9	9215	2696	2693	2693
query10	473	261	271	261
query11	17857	15104	15162	15104
query12	161	107	105	105
query13	1584	437	422	422
query14	9067	7457	7553	7457
query15	271	204	203	203
query16	8191	510	465	465
query17	1812	627	560	560
query18	2159	318	311	311
query19	391	163	156	156
query20	124	111	113	111
query21	214	116	109	109
query22	4855	4602	4459	4459
query23	35012	33788	33427	33427
query24	10687	2578	2444	2444
query25	598	401	401	401
query26	719	155	151	151
query27	2262	345	334	334
query28	6269	2464	2431	2431
query29	770	427	427	427
query30	241	147	153	147
query31	1046	848	854	848
query32	91	61	56	56
query33	680	303	303	303
query34	977	552	522	522
query35	890	802	786	786
query36	1094	965	958	958
query37	127	76	75	75
query38	4265	4232	4226	4226
query39	1500	1484	1448	1448
query40	211	104	104	104
query41	43	47	46	46
query42	114	99	104	99
query43	546	502	513	502
query44	1243	851	851	851
query45	198	169	166	166
query46	1230	750	718	718
query47	2051	1897	1897	1897
query48	424	331	329	329
query49	990	406	384	384
query50	844	409	402	402
query51	7348	7248	7092	7092
query52	106	95	93	93
query53	270	189	191	189
query54	1349	430	418	418
query55	91	78	83	78
query56	278	254	234	234
query57	1282	1171	1167	1167
query58	225	234	228	228
query59	3483	3422	3333	3333
query60	281	255	252	252
query61	109	111	110	110
query62	935	715	733	715
query63	223	191	200	191
query64	3618	678	646	646
query65	3272	3221	3214	3214
query66	835	297	315	297
query67	15934	15530	15391	15391
query68	4278	559	569	559
query69	451	272	247	247
query70	1229	1167	1146	1146
query71	411	264	264	264
query72	6929	4110	4113	4110
query73	777	361	360	360
query74	9613	8851	9085	8851
query75	3426	2655	2676	2655
query76	2847	1154	1109	1109
query77	514	265	294	265
query78	10248	9459	9375	9375
query79	1299	610	651	610
query80	890	441	451	441
query81	532	241	230	230
query82	895	120	124	120
query83	268	139	141	139
query84	228	68	78	68
query85	1476	299	303	299
query86	479	290	295	290
query87	4685	4385	4519	4385
query88	3976	2204	2183	2183
query89	421	293	298	293
query90	2078	195	190	190
query91	140	105	104	104
query92	67	51	51	51
query93	2432	547	545	545
query94	887	298	252	252
query95	351	258	255	255
query96	620	296	276	276
query97	2837	2661	2668	2661
query98	236	202	200	200
query99	1592	1335	1330	1330
Total cold run time: 298324 ms
Total hot run time: 196990 ms

[doris-robot]

ClickBench: Total hot run time: 33.11 s

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/clickbench-tools
ClickBench test result on commit 1c8bc243aa506838c152986f30c699a7621bb13e, data reload: false

query1	0.04	0.04	0.03
query2	0.07	0.04	0.03
query3	0.24	0.07	0.07
query4	1.60	0.11	0.11
query5	0.42	0.39	0.42
query6	1.15	0.66	0.65
query7	0.02	0.01	0.01
query8	0.03	0.04	0.03
query9	0.58	0.52	0.51
query10	0.57	0.56	0.56
query11	0.15	0.10	0.11
query12	0.14	0.11	0.11
query13	0.61	0.62	0.60
query14	2.78	2.75	2.72
query15	0.91	0.83	0.82
query16	0.38	0.38	0.38
query17	1.09	1.03	1.07
query18	0.23	0.22	0.22
query19	1.87	1.77	2.08
query20	0.01	0.01	0.01
query21	15.36	0.61	0.56
query22	2.58	2.71	1.85
query23	16.98	0.96	0.78
query24	3.53	1.46	1.68
query25	0.12	0.19	0.06
query26	0.61	0.14	0.14
query27	0.04	0.04	0.04
query28	9.32	1.12	1.07
query29	12.58	3.26	3.21
query30	0.25	0.06	0.08
query31	2.85	0.38	0.38
query32	3.26	0.47	0.46
query33	3.10	3.11	3.16
query34	16.84	4.55	4.53
query35	4.50	4.49	4.57
query36	0.70	0.50	0.47
query37	0.09	0.05	0.06
query38	0.05	0.03	0.03
query39	0.04	0.02	0.03
query40	0.17	0.14	0.12
query41	0.08	0.02	0.02
query42	0.03	0.02	0.02
query43	0.04	0.03	0.03
Total cold run time: 106.01 s
Total hot run time: 33.11 s